My first ever web made public was when I signed up for a Tumblr account back in early 2010 and ever since, I learnt that a lot of anonymous out there think they understand me, my life and the people I associate myself to. Some people can be really judgmental why the rest just go with the flow. (but there exist some really sweet people out there!) Although it was bothering at first, I found myself getting adjusted to this after a while and after sometime, I could actually sit down facing the laptops, reading nasty comments and cynical messages while laughing over them with my loved ones before having them deleted. :)
Mean remarks can entertain you but they should never affect you.
Also, every now and then, Hariss loves checking the questions out and we would sit and actually discuss. Yes, we're boring..... ;)
Him : B, someone asked if you're ready to wear the hijab.
Me : Uhh.... ok.
Him : Should I ask if this person wears the hijab?
Me : No thank you.
Him : No no, my pleasure. It's gonna take 20 secs top.
Him : Yet the same question on "being fake". Should I ask this person to be creative?
Me : Noooo. Why does that question affect you so much?
Him : Of course. I'm spending my time looking through and they're not moving on and think out of the box.
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We also turned 22 months (and hopefully many more to come!) 2 weeks back and it's brought upon us so much happiness in this short period of time.
Me : Woooww, we turned 22 months. Are you happy?
Him : Yeah, more than words can say, but we can make things better for sure.
Me : It's not great yet?
Him : Not really. You always reject my calls and return them the next day and you're nicer to other people than me.
Me : Nooooo. Example?
Him : You hugged my brother but you only said "bye" to me yesterday.
But we'll pull through. :)
Thursday, 22 December 2011
Saturday, 3 December 2011
On Sister's Proposal.
I was involved in planning a secret event where my sister were going to be proposed to by her boyfriend. It was a journey of love and joy and I respect him so much for paying attention to every little detail : venue, flowers, ring, guests, cutleries used even! Hariss was stressed all the time because I kept on turning to him to point out how he should be in the future and now. :p
They've been dating for the past 7 years and her boyfriend; CH, thought it's time that they settle down and to move on to the next step in their lives.
Things he did:
1) Rented out the whole The River Cafe in New York - where they first met through family arrangement.
2) A Mauboussin ring - something she casually told him she wanted as a gift just 2 hours before the event!!
3) An apartment at 515 East.
4) A Mary Katrantzou dress for the dinner.
5) Swakrovski Loubies.
6) a necklace from Ippolita + Pippa Small bracelet to go with the dress.
..... and she said "No".
I'm so devastated as though I am the guy. It's heart-breaking, really, knowing how I've always been a sucker for romance and happy endings. However, it's also taught me one lesson. It doesn't matter what you're presented with, if the timing's wrong, then things just won't go your way.
She needs more time apparently. There are still so many ambitions of hers she hasn't fulfilled, things she hasn't done, places she hasn't travelled to and most importantly, she thinks there are still more gaps for them to fill in - and time will heal.
But life goes on....
They've been dating for the past 7 years and her boyfriend; CH, thought it's time that they settle down and to move on to the next step in their lives.
Things he did:
1) Rented out the whole The River Cafe in New York - where they first met through family arrangement.
2) A Mauboussin ring - something she casually told him she wanted as a gift just 2 hours before the event!!
3) An apartment at 515 East.
4) A Mary Katrantzou dress for the dinner.
5) Swakrovski Loubies.
6) a necklace from Ippolita + Pippa Small bracelet to go with the dress.
..... and she said "No".
I'm so devastated as though I am the guy. It's heart-breaking, really, knowing how I've always been a sucker for romance and happy endings. However, it's also taught me one lesson. It doesn't matter what you're presented with, if the timing's wrong, then things just won't go your way.
She needs more time apparently. There are still so many ambitions of hers she hasn't fulfilled, things she hasn't done, places she hasn't travelled to and most importantly, she thinks there are still more gaps for them to fill in - and time will heal.
But life goes on....
Monday, 21 November 2011
On Fitness.
I am - hands down - a really vain person on the beauty aspect and growing up, I was exposed to the unhealthy mentality that beauty is being skinny. Thankfully, I've also understood a few years back that being skinny isn't just about fitting yourself in amazing clothes but your body will also need to look good in them!
Toned body!
Hence, it involved a lot of precious time and money when I subscribed to gyms, hired personal trainers to come home and watch my daily diet, bought the equipments that would have helped the process, slimming programmes, massages, pilates, yoga.... everything and anything under the sun! Along the way, I also realized it won't take you there without strong and consistent self-motivation. :) You've got to do it for yourself, not for other people.
Reality is, I still had cellulites (I used to be size UK10 when I was 13-14) that were so stubborn they just wouldn't go and one day I was showed an article on doing power plate exercise - which, by the way, had worked miraculously!
It looks as per the picture below and as far as I know, you can get one off the market from a range of $2000-$10000, depending on what you need and what are you able to fork out.
It involved a series of die-hard work outs, way different from what I thought it would be. I thought it was easy compared to the work outs I did on normal gym equipments knowing that each exercise should only be done for 30 seconds to a minute but it wasn't all sweets because that 30 seconds can be the longest 30 seconds in your life.
This machine helped me a lot in improving my blood circulation which in return had helped for the cellulites to go away. They basically are there because of poor blood circulation due to excess fats (or just blood circulation probs alone) and you can break down fats at certain parts of your body only depending on what you need.
However, I would say real speedy results only follow if you watch what you eat. Throughout 6 weeks, I controlled my food intake by cutting down on red meat and even if I had a large portion of it, I would make up to a 15-20 minutes session on power plate. Also, it works quicker than conventional exercises on the treadmill or cross-trainers!
My height's 171cm, used to weigh 58kg with an untoned body.
After power plate exercises, I'm now 54kg with toned thighs, toned arms, toned abs and best of all - cellulites free! Would definitely give the credits to Joey for introducing.
For the rest of you who would want to have a toned body, I would strongly suggest this form of exercises. Takes 60% lesser time!
Toned body!
Hence, it involved a lot of precious time and money when I subscribed to gyms, hired personal trainers to come home and watch my daily diet, bought the equipments that would have helped the process, slimming programmes, massages, pilates, yoga.... everything and anything under the sun! Along the way, I also realized it won't take you there without strong and consistent self-motivation. :) You've got to do it for yourself, not for other people.
Reality is, I still had cellulites (I used to be size UK10 when I was 13-14) that were so stubborn they just wouldn't go and one day I was showed an article on doing power plate exercise - which, by the way, had worked miraculously!
It looks as per the picture below and as far as I know, you can get one off the market from a range of $2000-$10000, depending on what you need and what are you able to fork out.
It involved a series of die-hard work outs, way different from what I thought it would be. I thought it was easy compared to the work outs I did on normal gym equipments knowing that each exercise should only be done for 30 seconds to a minute but it wasn't all sweets because that 30 seconds can be the longest 30 seconds in your life.
This machine helped me a lot in improving my blood circulation which in return had helped for the cellulites to go away. They basically are there because of poor blood circulation due to excess fats (or just blood circulation probs alone) and you can break down fats at certain parts of your body only depending on what you need.
However, I would say real speedy results only follow if you watch what you eat. Throughout 6 weeks, I controlled my food intake by cutting down on red meat and even if I had a large portion of it, I would make up to a 15-20 minutes session on power plate. Also, it works quicker than conventional exercises on the treadmill or cross-trainers!
My height's 171cm, used to weigh 58kg with an untoned body.
After power plate exercises, I'm now 54kg with toned thighs, toned arms, toned abs and best of all - cellulites free! Would definitely give the credits to Joey for introducing.
For the rest of you who would want to have a toned body, I would strongly suggest this form of exercises. Takes 60% lesser time!
Saturday, 5 November 2011
What Comes Back to Us.
A very quick post taken off my dear friend; Jenny's blog.
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Ahhh, international school, Hermeses, Aston Martins, Piagets... am I spoilt?
I've read across the (damn wide) web and is not pleased with the world. Why is a person labelled as spoilt for having all that? We grow up to get what we can be offered to get and as much as the world is fair, it does vary from an individual to another.
One kid gets a cheap $2 toy from a stall by the roadside and guess what? Another observing kid can easily label him as "spoilt" for getting a $2 item!
The next time you want to shove your finger and point to people, look around. Another unknown may just do the same - rightttt back at cha!
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Hopefully a proper entry soon.
Lots of love!
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Ahhh, international school, Hermeses, Aston Martins, Piagets... am I spoilt?
I've read across the (damn wide) web and is not pleased with the world. Why is a person labelled as spoilt for having all that? We grow up to get what we can be offered to get and as much as the world is fair, it does vary from an individual to another.
One kid gets a cheap $2 toy from a stall by the roadside and guess what? Another observing kid can easily label him as "spoilt" for getting a $2 item!
The next time you want to shove your finger and point to people, look around. Another unknown may just do the same - rightttt back at cha!
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Hopefully a proper entry soon.
Lots of love!
Friday, 19 August 2011
Happy Birthday, Kimi!
taken off Kak Lyna's blog:
"It's my little adik's birthday! If there is a sibling whom I'm tremendously proud of, it's got to be my little brother below me who goes by a lot of names; Kimi, Imy, Adik, Dan... in the past, Kismis even! Not to say the rest aren't the people whom I'm proud of, I just think he's gone through so much more. We've a 9 years gap but he was the little sibling I was waiting for for years so we were exceptionally close throughout the times we were growing up.
I saw him as someone very independent and had a mind of his own. He always knows what he wants and he works top notch to get to where he is now. Besides my elder brother, Kimi too had to take up something he didn't like in university. I remember the big fight he had with our parents as he was very determined on taking a different course but he didn't have money. He wanted to study what he really liked but he couldn't because our father didn't want to pay for his education if he were to take that different course - and we were forbidden to help. Everyone was torn in between, there were a lot of heartbreaks but he moved on. He continued with his studies, he took up the course our father wanted him to do and he started working at the age of 18.
What he did - you name it. Bar tender, postman, despatch, librarian, translator, delivering flyers but he settled being a tutor for over 3 years. He had classes to attend and he also had tuition classes to do so since many years back, he's gotten used to sleeping only 2-3 hours a day - which for most us is near impossible. At the age of 19 (second year), he has earned enough to pay for his tuition fees (at that time, £12,000) and didn't want our father to pay for his education. I can tell that it wasn't easy - there were a lot of times when he would call up and admitted "yes, it's hard" but that was also something he chose to do. This little brother of mine has always wanted to prove people wrong and to show people if there's a will, there's a way. Hence, there wasn't any hanky pankies in his life - strictly business.
By 19 years old, he was earning £560 a day on weekdays & £1120 a day on weekends (yes, I still remember - and had over £11,000 a month!) ; at that time, it was equivalent to RM3920 & RM7840 respectively. And by 19 years old, he already started to give our parents part of his income (he gave both our parents £2,000 each if I'm not mistaken) and also gave out allowances to his younger siblings. Although he had a lot of arguments with both our parents, I can assure you that never once did he disrespect any of them and I believe with the blessings and prayers of your parents only can he go thus far. He respects them accordingly, loves them tremendously and show them his appreciations constantly.
At the age of 21, he attended Oxford and was scouted even before he graduated from a lot of multi-national companies ; which no one in the family had ever!
He's turned 24 years old today and he's gone so far ahead than the rest but remains to be very humbled and down to earth. He rarely splurges on himself and rather spend on family. He's crazy of responsibilities - he currently pays for our little sister's tuition fees, he gives her allowances, buys our mother her needs, get our father his toys, brings out his nephews & nieces for shopping sessions, sends & fetches them up from tuition classes, sends our grandparents to the hospitals for check-ups... all done by him.
Hence if there's anyone in this world whom I think deserves so much love and blessings from Allah, it's him. He has always told me one thing: "if we think spending 1000 on our parents is too much when we're just earning 2000, then it's wrong. I noticed if I earn 2000, and I spend 1000 on my parents, God gives me double or triple back". Our cousins always ask him how can he still save so much and he would say the key is to not be stingy to your loved ones; Allah will pay you back.
Today, I wish God would listen and grant my prayers - I hope he will meet someone who loves him dearly, I hope he will get so much more rezeki and berkat, I hope his life will only consist of sincere people, I hope God will never lead him astray, I hope he will constantly gain so much more successes, I hope he will live a very long life, I hope never will he have to go through shame and sorrow, I hope God will always enlighten his life, I hope he will always be at peace.
Adik, Kak Lyna loves you! "
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Happy Birthday, Kimi! My hope is for you to meet great people along the way and for you to be a better person yet still maintains to be the awesome man you already are now.
Lots of love (and hugs) ,
Freida.
"It's my little adik's birthday! If there is a sibling whom I'm tremendously proud of, it's got to be my little brother below me who goes by a lot of names; Kimi, Imy, Adik, Dan... in the past, Kismis even! Not to say the rest aren't the people whom I'm proud of, I just think he's gone through so much more. We've a 9 years gap but he was the little sibling I was waiting for for years so we were exceptionally close throughout the times we were growing up.
I saw him as someone very independent and had a mind of his own. He always knows what he wants and he works top notch to get to where he is now. Besides my elder brother, Kimi too had to take up something he didn't like in university. I remember the big fight he had with our parents as he was very determined on taking a different course but he didn't have money. He wanted to study what he really liked but he couldn't because our father didn't want to pay for his education if he were to take that different course - and we were forbidden to help. Everyone was torn in between, there were a lot of heartbreaks but he moved on. He continued with his studies, he took up the course our father wanted him to do and he started working at the age of 18.
What he did - you name it. Bar tender, postman, despatch, librarian, translator, delivering flyers but he settled being a tutor for over 3 years. He had classes to attend and he also had tuition classes to do so since many years back, he's gotten used to sleeping only 2-3 hours a day - which for most us is near impossible. At the age of 19 (second year), he has earned enough to pay for his tuition fees (at that time, £12,000) and didn't want our father to pay for his education. I can tell that it wasn't easy - there were a lot of times when he would call up and admitted "yes, it's hard" but that was also something he chose to do. This little brother of mine has always wanted to prove people wrong and to show people if there's a will, there's a way. Hence, there wasn't any hanky pankies in his life - strictly business.
By 19 years old, he was earning £560 a day on weekdays & £1120 a day on weekends (yes, I still remember - and had over £11,000 a month!) ; at that time, it was equivalent to RM3920 & RM7840 respectively. And by 19 years old, he already started to give our parents part of his income (he gave both our parents £2,000 each if I'm not mistaken) and also gave out allowances to his younger siblings. Although he had a lot of arguments with both our parents, I can assure you that never once did he disrespect any of them and I believe with the blessings and prayers of your parents only can he go thus far. He respects them accordingly, loves them tremendously and show them his appreciations constantly.
At the age of 21, he attended Oxford and was scouted even before he graduated from a lot of multi-national companies ; which no one in the family had ever!
He's turned 24 years old today and he's gone so far ahead than the rest but remains to be very humbled and down to earth. He rarely splurges on himself and rather spend on family. He's crazy of responsibilities - he currently pays for our little sister's tuition fees, he gives her allowances, buys our mother her needs, get our father his toys, brings out his nephews & nieces for shopping sessions, sends & fetches them up from tuition classes, sends our grandparents to the hospitals for check-ups... all done by him.
Hence if there's anyone in this world whom I think deserves so much love and blessings from Allah, it's him. He has always told me one thing: "if we think spending 1000 on our parents is too much when we're just earning 2000, then it's wrong. I noticed if I earn 2000, and I spend 1000 on my parents, God gives me double or triple back". Our cousins always ask him how can he still save so much and he would say the key is to not be stingy to your loved ones; Allah will pay you back.
Today, I wish God would listen and grant my prayers - I hope he will meet someone who loves him dearly, I hope he will get so much more rezeki and berkat, I hope his life will only consist of sincere people, I hope God will never lead him astray, I hope he will constantly gain so much more successes, I hope he will live a very long life, I hope never will he have to go through shame and sorrow, I hope God will always enlighten his life, I hope he will always be at peace.
Adik, Kak Lyna loves you! "
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Happy Birthday, Kimi! My hope is for you to meet great people along the way and for you to be a better person yet still maintains to be the awesome man you already are now.
Lots of love (and hugs) ,
Freida.
Sunday, 14 August 2011
On Races and How They Get in Between.
This morning, I was in Sepang where Hariss, his brothers, some of their cousins and friends went for a friendly race. Apparently, it's the way they bond but I am always his mother because I'll be saying "ride slowly" instead of saying "win!" like some other supportive girlfriends.
Hariss thinks I'm so uncool so throughout the time we've known each other, he's only taken me to watch the race twice. Once when we were just 1/2 months together (there was this GP Race) and another time, today (that's because he didn't have enough time to send me back home). He's generally very into sports and a very active lad but I am 1) not interested in watching that sort of race and 2) I think it's super duper dangerous. And lastly, we never bond when we watch such race together so to have a nice relationship, we try to avoid doing it. ;)
That one time when we were watching the race, I wanted to notify my dad what time I would get back home so I asked:
Me : What time will this GP race finish?
Him : What GP?
Me : Ummm, THIS GP race???
Him : They're not GP riders. They're 125!
Me : What 125? Basically, they're riders, right?
Him : No. Don't you know they've teams? They've MotoGP, Moto2 and 125. You DON'T KNOW that? What do you mean you don't know?!
Hariss thinks I'm so uncool so throughout the time we've known each other, he's only taken me to watch the race twice. Once when we were just 1/2 months together (there was this GP Race) and another time, today (that's because he didn't have enough time to send me back home). He's generally very into sports and a very active lad but I am 1) not interested in watching that sort of race and 2) I think it's super duper dangerous. And lastly, we never bond when we watch such race together so to have a nice relationship, we try to avoid doing it. ;)
That one time when we were watching the race, I wanted to notify my dad what time I would get back home so I asked:
Me : What time will this GP race finish?
Him : What GP?
Me : Ummm, THIS GP race???
Him : They're not GP riders. They're 125!
Me : What 125? Basically, they're riders, right?
Him : No. Don't you know they've teams? They've MotoGP, Moto2 and 125. You DON'T KNOW that? What do you mean you don't know?!
Me : Go Italy!!
Him : So who're you rooting for?
Me : Italy.
Him : How can you root for Italy? You're supposed to choose just one person.
Me : But they're representing the same country. So why not?
Him : This is an individual race..........
Me : Err , okay. I shall root for _______ (someone I cannot remember)
Him : Buuuuut, he's not on the Italy's team.
Me : What? He looks Italian! And I read that he was born somewhere in Italy.
Him : I've a friend who was born in London. But that doesn't make him a British.
Him : Do you think if I get that Ducati, I'll be able to do his style of 170km/h cornering?
Me : What are you crazy?
Him : Why?
Me : Who corners at 170km/h?!! You're supposed to watch your speed. I don't mind if it's just a straight road but corners?!
Him : But racing is all about taking the risks. What are you nagging about?
Me : That lad placed 27th. Why is he receiving a medal?
Him : He placed FIRST. His number's 27! Let's go home. T.T
But I believe it's the little little differences that make the journey even better. :)
Lotsa love,
Freida.
Wednesday, 10 August 2011
On Being 18 Months Together...
Maybe very little people know (unless you're close with us) on how Hariss and I got together. I've this crazy urge to share with you guys our story now that I'm waiting for sahur time. :p I remember meeting him the first time when I was still in college but he's actually a very quiet guy and does his own things and prefers to avoid making contacts with people whom he's not close with. He's an enormous wall around him!
I found through my friend that Kimi was his tutor whom he seeked every weekends. IB was tough and I needed some time off to meet another person who can help me out to meet the points I expected to get. I did my IB in Chaltenham Ladies College and hence I would drive down to London every weekend for my classes with Kimi. We spent 3 years having classes together but I only talked to Hariss twice. Once when I bumped into him outside his house and second time when I met him by chance in Jamie's. We had small talks but that was it.
Through my second year, Kimi had graduated so we didn't meet up until Kimi returned to London for a 3 months visit when I regularly visited his house for lunch or even dinner whenever invited. This one time, I saw him cooking in the kitchen and was amazed at his skills so I was curious and went over. We talked about food, and later on about our families and friends and what we do which had helped a lot for us to bond.
There was this one day when we were seating on the couch at his house, he turned to me and asked, "you know... are you single?". It got me thinking. He never asked! So I said that yes, I was single and he asked why and I said I didn't know. I was single, and happy, and didn't mind. Only after that did he ask for my phone number and later on he always made the effort to text and call over the littlest things like : good morning! I felt the warmth in him and that touched me. Sometimes, before sleep, he would randomly tell me how his days went by and I would share how mine went through. It became a comfortable thing and we felt awkward not telling each other whatever we do in the upcoming weeks! haha.
On the christmas break, I had to go back to Malaysia and so I told him the night before "I'll be flying back to KL tomorrow morning." and he replied "see you soon!" . I didn't understand until he boarded the same plane the next morning - which was too sweet because he bought his ticket right after I told him. :) He met my parents in the airport and my parents were pleased that I made a nice decent friend and invited him over for dinner that very night.
My dad's a very direct person and he said he "saw" why Hariss would fly back with me and asked: so do you like my daughter?
Only my dad does that these days!! I've forgotten how I reacted but I'm very sure I was very embarrassed. He was direct too, and sweet. He said something like "I do. I like her and I'd love to know her more and insyaallah for our relationship to develop. And if you're fine with it uncle, I'd love to be together with your daughter".
Only HE does that these days!! I was stunned and my mom was there laughing. Dad was so pleased over that and said yes on my behalf. Geez! However, I'm happy that I made the right choice.
I love him. I love his family. and I love all of his friends. We respect each other's networks and do not try to intrude to one another's personal space. Still, I'd like to believe we always have each other in our minds. :))
18 months, and I wish we'll have millions more days being together. This seems real and I hope for the best future.
xx
I found through my friend that Kimi was his tutor whom he seeked every weekends. IB was tough and I needed some time off to meet another person who can help me out to meet the points I expected to get. I did my IB in Chaltenham Ladies College and hence I would drive down to London every weekend for my classes with Kimi. We spent 3 years having classes together but I only talked to Hariss twice. Once when I bumped into him outside his house and second time when I met him by chance in Jamie's. We had small talks but that was it.
Through my second year, Kimi had graduated so we didn't meet up until Kimi returned to London for a 3 months visit when I regularly visited his house for lunch or even dinner whenever invited. This one time, I saw him cooking in the kitchen and was amazed at his skills so I was curious and went over. We talked about food, and later on about our families and friends and what we do which had helped a lot for us to bond.
There was this one day when we were seating on the couch at his house, he turned to me and asked, "you know... are you single?". It got me thinking. He never asked! So I said that yes, I was single and he asked why and I said I didn't know. I was single, and happy, and didn't mind. Only after that did he ask for my phone number and later on he always made the effort to text and call over the littlest things like : good morning! I felt the warmth in him and that touched me. Sometimes, before sleep, he would randomly tell me how his days went by and I would share how mine went through. It became a comfortable thing and we felt awkward not telling each other whatever we do in the upcoming weeks! haha.
On the christmas break, I had to go back to Malaysia and so I told him the night before "I'll be flying back to KL tomorrow morning." and he replied "see you soon!" . I didn't understand until he boarded the same plane the next morning - which was too sweet because he bought his ticket right after I told him. :) He met my parents in the airport and my parents were pleased that I made a nice decent friend and invited him over for dinner that very night.
My dad's a very direct person and he said he "saw" why Hariss would fly back with me and asked: so do you like my daughter?
Only my dad does that these days!! I've forgotten how I reacted but I'm very sure I was very embarrassed. He was direct too, and sweet. He said something like "I do. I like her and I'd love to know her more and insyaallah for our relationship to develop. And if you're fine with it uncle, I'd love to be together with your daughter".
Only HE does that these days!! I was stunned and my mom was there laughing. Dad was so pleased over that and said yes on my behalf. Geez! However, I'm happy that I made the right choice.
I love him. I love his family. and I love all of his friends. We respect each other's networks and do not try to intrude to one another's personal space. Still, I'd like to believe we always have each other in our minds. :))
18 months, and I wish we'll have millions more days being together. This seems real and I hope for the best future.
xx
Tuesday, 9 August 2011
How I Shared.
Hello!
I have forgotten the point where I left and is confused on where exactly to start! Anyway, my summer break has been a full-filling one up to this point. I've done a lot, contributed a lot and engaged a lot more with people - high and low - knowing what went wrong and how to make them right.
I'd love to share this one story from my own personal experience in Seoul (nope, not about the tragedy just yet) . It's still far from an eyes-opening experience maybe, but I grew up in the process. In fact, I walked so far in such a short time. :)
So when I was in Seoul, I suggested to my grandfather that I would want to seek for a job the normal people do. The unfortunate ones who don't have solid education background, zero connections - basically how those people start from scratch. Knowing him, I got a good lecture on NOT continuing that wish of mine.
I did it anyway. Not because I was stubborn but because I was determined. I've so many friends who came from great families and we all (even myself) have the tendency to forget that a lot more people out there don't have what we have - little to none. Hence, I would like to learn and seek what the real deal is and where real money comes from.
Story begins...
I walked down every street and aisle and it was so hard to get a plain job. Not the extraordinaire corporate jobs, nope! Just a sales assistant maybe or even a store helper. There were so many adverts pasted but no real jobs. Thank god, I got a job on my second day and it was lovely - nope, not the wage - the process was really really hard but I felt like I finally deserved something in my life.
Where I worked : Family Mart.
It's a convenience store operating 24 hours ... something like 7-Eleven in Malaysia and C-Store in New York. And I had to work on shifts thus it got me thinking. How do I commute?? How do they commute?! I didn't know a more brilliant way and the subway isn't very near to my house so I cycled to work every single day.
It was scary at first. Sometimes, my shift finished at 5am and some other times, I had to start work at 2pm (when it's so hot outside) so it was very very challenging not getting help from anyone.
What I did:
Everything!
1) I held a mop for the first time in my life, and I didn't know how to rock it. So my manager got really mad she called me an idiot and threw me the mop back at me.
2) I was taller than the rest of my female colleagues so I got bullied a lot - they kept on asking me to do work, to arrange the items on the higher racks when they could use the available bench.
3) You think it's easy to operate a cash machine? Nope, not so, I would say. I got confused and panicked this one day. Customers were queueing and I couldn't quite manage it and caused a PMS-y colleague to get mad at me for disturbing her at the ladies. Geez, sorry!
4) I also had to do a whole lot of cleaning up. Cans, noodle cups, spilled hot water - it was a lot of work.
5) Managed stocks. I had to count stocks, sometimes the stocks come at the wee hours in the morning so I cannot afford to not focus plus I had to arrange everything in the store room after all that have settled.
What I experienced :
Drunk men, got harassed, they thought I was a joke so they tried to be funny, called for help, ended up shouting so loud I lost my voice after, knock something (I cannot recall) to one of the man's head that had brought him to sanity.... gosh, too many things happened.
Rude customers who would flash their money in front of me and said, "you are just a cashier" and "who do you think you are?". I didn't understand why would anyone do that, really. :( Sad to know it's still happening!
What I loved:
On the last day, I gave everyone a nice, classical purse and everyone thought they were fakes. Ha-ha. It was just a small gesture and even after all that I had gone through (and put to go through) , I respected them for the experience they had given me - probably something none in my network can ever give me! But the real significance of the purse is for them to make that purse as a bench-mark; for them to start saving, for them to create new & better lives and also slotted in some name cards of the people who would help them - education-wise, monetary...
Dare :
Dare you do the same?
1- Instead of condemning, go down to their level and understand what they go through.
You may think they've zero morales - bullying and whatnot but why not try to see the stress and work-load they're put on but paid so minimal and don't get the sense of respect from the community.
2- Who are you?
Instead of saying "who are they?" to them, why not ask, "who are we?". WIthout our families, who are we? Without God's generosity, who are we? Without luck, who are we?
3- Know what you deserve.
Until you make your own penny, you should never judge another person's wealth or be biased about what they can do in life or how far they can go because you don't know and you will never know. Everyone can make money, the only thing that differs them is how much they can make. With our backgrounds, we may can do so much, but with our real efforts, things can become doubtful.
-
I hope I have touched you in one way or another. Pardon me if there were sentences which were too direct or have irritated anyone at all. I'm a human, after all. :)
Really hope to have more time to write in this space in the future. Please leave behind your links to share your space with me as well!
Lots of love,
Freida.
I have forgotten the point where I left and is confused on where exactly to start! Anyway, my summer break has been a full-filling one up to this point. I've done a lot, contributed a lot and engaged a lot more with people - high and low - knowing what went wrong and how to make them right.
I'd love to share this one story from my own personal experience in Seoul (nope, not about the tragedy just yet) . It's still far from an eyes-opening experience maybe, but I grew up in the process. In fact, I walked so far in such a short time. :)
So when I was in Seoul, I suggested to my grandfather that I would want to seek for a job the normal people do. The unfortunate ones who don't have solid education background, zero connections - basically how those people start from scratch. Knowing him, I got a good lecture on NOT continuing that wish of mine.
I did it anyway. Not because I was stubborn but because I was determined. I've so many friends who came from great families and we all (even myself) have the tendency to forget that a lot more people out there don't have what we have - little to none. Hence, I would like to learn and seek what the real deal is and where real money comes from.
Story begins...
I walked down every street and aisle and it was so hard to get a plain job. Not the extraordinaire corporate jobs, nope! Just a sales assistant maybe or even a store helper. There were so many adverts pasted but no real jobs. Thank god, I got a job on my second day and it was lovely - nope, not the wage - the process was really really hard but I felt like I finally deserved something in my life.
Where I worked : Family Mart.
It's a convenience store operating 24 hours ... something like 7-Eleven in Malaysia and C-Store in New York. And I had to work on shifts thus it got me thinking. How do I commute?? How do they commute?! I didn't know a more brilliant way and the subway isn't very near to my house so I cycled to work every single day.
It was scary at first. Sometimes, my shift finished at 5am and some other times, I had to start work at 2pm (when it's so hot outside) so it was very very challenging not getting help from anyone.
What I did:
Everything!
1) I held a mop for the first time in my life, and I didn't know how to rock it. So my manager got really mad she called me an idiot and threw me the mop back at me.
2) I was taller than the rest of my female colleagues so I got bullied a lot - they kept on asking me to do work, to arrange the items on the higher racks when they could use the available bench.
3) You think it's easy to operate a cash machine? Nope, not so, I would say. I got confused and panicked this one day. Customers were queueing and I couldn't quite manage it and caused a PMS-y colleague to get mad at me for disturbing her at the ladies. Geez, sorry!
4) I also had to do a whole lot of cleaning up. Cans, noodle cups, spilled hot water - it was a lot of work.
5) Managed stocks. I had to count stocks, sometimes the stocks come at the wee hours in the morning so I cannot afford to not focus plus I had to arrange everything in the store room after all that have settled.
What I experienced :
Drunk men, got harassed, they thought I was a joke so they tried to be funny, called for help, ended up shouting so loud I lost my voice after, knock something (I cannot recall) to one of the man's head that had brought him to sanity.... gosh, too many things happened.
Rude customers who would flash their money in front of me and said, "you are just a cashier" and "who do you think you are?". I didn't understand why would anyone do that, really. :( Sad to know it's still happening!
What I loved:
On the last day, I gave everyone a nice, classical purse and everyone thought they were fakes. Ha-ha. It was just a small gesture and even after all that I had gone through (and put to go through) , I respected them for the experience they had given me - probably something none in my network can ever give me! But the real significance of the purse is for them to make that purse as a bench-mark; for them to start saving, for them to create new & better lives and also slotted in some name cards of the people who would help them - education-wise, monetary...
Dare :
Dare you do the same?
1- Instead of condemning, go down to their level and understand what they go through.
You may think they've zero morales - bullying and whatnot but why not try to see the stress and work-load they're put on but paid so minimal and don't get the sense of respect from the community.
2- Who are you?
Instead of saying "who are they?" to them, why not ask, "who are we?". WIthout our families, who are we? Without God's generosity, who are we? Without luck, who are we?
3- Know what you deserve.
Until you make your own penny, you should never judge another person's wealth or be biased about what they can do in life or how far they can go because you don't know and you will never know. Everyone can make money, the only thing that differs them is how much they can make. With our backgrounds, we may can do so much, but with our real efforts, things can become doubtful.
-
I hope I have touched you in one way or another. Pardon me if there were sentences which were too direct or have irritated anyone at all. I'm a human, after all. :)
Really hope to have more time to write in this space in the future. Please leave behind your links to share your space with me as well!
Lots of love,
Freida.
Sunday, 5 June 2011
Tips!
A number of people have asked for how-to-study tips from me. Though, I don't know if whatever that come from me will actually work out for all, I do hope it helps these few people who are reading to become better and preparing for exams.
1. Being consistent.
I do not study for a long period of time but I can say I study consistently. If not in the library, I spend at least 2 hours everyday to revise on my own and I can assure that it helps a lot! Although there are days that I only do an hour, it makes me feel great to know that I did the least that I could. I also try to read the same topics repeatedly for 3 times or so (at different times) just to assure that they'll be remembered.
2. Do not pull an all-nighter.
It is not healthy to pull an all-nighter no matter how much you want to try absorbing every single thing at the eleventh hour. For someone who believes in studying consistently, I think it is not wise to pull an all-nighter because our brains need to have ample rest. Do not deprive your body from excellent health. Besides, it helps someone to focus more during the day when he/she has gotten enough sleep at night. I myself take at least 7 hours of sleep everyday and it makes me a better and focused student in classes; which also means, you wouldn't need to do a lot of reading on your own since you've pretty much absorbed 70% of what you need in lectures.
3. Exercise!
There are beliefs that you become more tired after you exercise. Wrong! I do a 30 minutes cardio session every morning after breakfast before I head to classes and it helped a lot for me to remain active. Also, I would dance everytime I go out and socialize with friends at night and that is also another form of exercise for me. A lot of people think laying down doing nothing is the ideal way to "recharge" but it works differently for me.
4. Practice Makes Perfect.
My course requires me to be able to answer and tackle question differently. I'm not saying courses like Law is a piece of cake but course like that - at most - require only your memorizing skills. If you excel at that, you won't have problems sitting for exams. The thing with Sciences and Mathematical courses are, it doesn't matter if you've memorized the equations or formulas. What matters the most is for you to be able to know WHICH one to use. I encourage myself to do ample of past year questions to help familiarize myself in preparation for exams.
5. Motivation.
It's understandable that there are days that you just feel so lazy. I'm no exception but I try to seek for anything or anyone who can gives me great drives to keep on going. I'm blessed having supportive people around me who would ask if I've studied or if my progress is all right because it helps a lot to motivate me to become better. This, however, varies from a person to person basis so I think it's essential for all students to know their greatest drive.
6. Time Management.
We all study to get that certificate - no matter how meaningless it is to some people. However, I also think this is the time that you should engage with a lot of people. Make friends and widen your connections because what I learnt during school is that, your connection from school and university helps a lot in your career. Even if they don't in your case, it's always good to have more friends. Go out and have fun. You wouldn't want to be an all-frown person and to hate your university days. That would be a great loss. Make cool histories and memories with your loved ones!
7. Study Groups.
Some people cannot study with other people but I think it is good to share your knowledge with other people. Grab a cup of coffee and sit around with friends to discuss the key points of last lectures for 15 minutes or so everyday. You're not being a nerd. In fact, it sharpens your understanding and you learn even more in the most laid back manner. Stress-free too! They can be very relaxed conversations and this knowledge exchange is so vital since a person cannot possibly know everything. Share.
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I cannot say that I'm a first class student but these little things have helped me a lot to survive Science school. Most importantly, one must always be passionate about the thing they're doing. You cannot be studying thinking how much money you'll get out of your career; this is so wrong to me. Nevertheless, how one study is always an individual kind of thing.
Good luck! :)
xx
1. Being consistent.
I do not study for a long period of time but I can say I study consistently. If not in the library, I spend at least 2 hours everyday to revise on my own and I can assure that it helps a lot! Although there are days that I only do an hour, it makes me feel great to know that I did the least that I could. I also try to read the same topics repeatedly for 3 times or so (at different times) just to assure that they'll be remembered.
2. Do not pull an all-nighter.
It is not healthy to pull an all-nighter no matter how much you want to try absorbing every single thing at the eleventh hour. For someone who believes in studying consistently, I think it is not wise to pull an all-nighter because our brains need to have ample rest. Do not deprive your body from excellent health. Besides, it helps someone to focus more during the day when he/she has gotten enough sleep at night. I myself take at least 7 hours of sleep everyday and it makes me a better and focused student in classes; which also means, you wouldn't need to do a lot of reading on your own since you've pretty much absorbed 70% of what you need in lectures.
3. Exercise!
There are beliefs that you become more tired after you exercise. Wrong! I do a 30 minutes cardio session every morning after breakfast before I head to classes and it helped a lot for me to remain active. Also, I would dance everytime I go out and socialize with friends at night and that is also another form of exercise for me. A lot of people think laying down doing nothing is the ideal way to "recharge" but it works differently for me.
4. Practice Makes Perfect.
My course requires me to be able to answer and tackle question differently. I'm not saying courses like Law is a piece of cake but course like that - at most - require only your memorizing skills. If you excel at that, you won't have problems sitting for exams. The thing with Sciences and Mathematical courses are, it doesn't matter if you've memorized the equations or formulas. What matters the most is for you to be able to know WHICH one to use. I encourage myself to do ample of past year questions to help familiarize myself in preparation for exams.
5. Motivation.
It's understandable that there are days that you just feel so lazy. I'm no exception but I try to seek for anything or anyone who can gives me great drives to keep on going. I'm blessed having supportive people around me who would ask if I've studied or if my progress is all right because it helps a lot to motivate me to become better. This, however, varies from a person to person basis so I think it's essential for all students to know their greatest drive.
6. Time Management.
We all study to get that certificate - no matter how meaningless it is to some people. However, I also think this is the time that you should engage with a lot of people. Make friends and widen your connections because what I learnt during school is that, your connection from school and university helps a lot in your career. Even if they don't in your case, it's always good to have more friends. Go out and have fun. You wouldn't want to be an all-frown person and to hate your university days. That would be a great loss. Make cool histories and memories with your loved ones!
7. Study Groups.
Some people cannot study with other people but I think it is good to share your knowledge with other people. Grab a cup of coffee and sit around with friends to discuss the key points of last lectures for 15 minutes or so everyday. You're not being a nerd. In fact, it sharpens your understanding and you learn even more in the most laid back manner. Stress-free too! They can be very relaxed conversations and this knowledge exchange is so vital since a person cannot possibly know everything. Share.
-
I cannot say that I'm a first class student but these little things have helped me a lot to survive Science school. Most importantly, one must always be passionate about the thing they're doing. You cannot be studying thinking how much money you'll get out of your career; this is so wrong to me. Nevertheless, how one study is always an individual kind of thing.
Good luck! :)
xx
Friday, 3 June 2011
Run for a Cause.
Hi guys!
I've been involved in a number of charity runs before like the British 10k Run, Race For Life (by the UK Cancer Research) and Virgin Marathon Run in London, the ING run and Manhattan Society run in New York but never before in KL.
So I decided to participate in this year's Standard Chartered KL Marathon scheduled on June 26th at Dataran Merdeka. Like other charity runs, they used to offer participants to show initiatives in collecting funds to give back to their preferred charity body. I'm too late, sadly, because they've stopped collection last May 31st.
There are a couple of categories to suit yourself but I'm participating on the 42KM marathon along with my beau. Other than that, there's the half-marathon category which requires you to run for 21KM or you can even go to the 10KM race or the 5KM fun run. As an experienced marathon participant, I do suggest first timers to go for the 10km or the half-marathon because the 5km one is going to be such a short one and I reckon the 21km one is just nice. :)
From a first-hand experience:
I used to participate in a 40km run in London with Hariss and I managed to reach the finishing line in nearly 4.5 hours thinking I was quick but guess how long he took? Less than 3 hours!
I think the essence to have fun in a marathon is to just follow your own pace and not to try to catch up with someone else. We usually start together but prior to starting and after our speed has warmed up, we split and go following to our own ability - fast or slow.
It's definitely going to be a fun run and most importantly, we're all running for a cause. I do hope I can reach out to at least some of you out there and to be able to persuade you to join as well.
Hope to see you there!
Warm wishes,
Freida.
I've been involved in a number of charity runs before like the British 10k Run, Race For Life (by the UK Cancer Research) and Virgin Marathon Run in London, the ING run and Manhattan Society run in New York but never before in KL.
So I decided to participate in this year's Standard Chartered KL Marathon scheduled on June 26th at Dataran Merdeka. Like other charity runs, they used to offer participants to show initiatives in collecting funds to give back to their preferred charity body. I'm too late, sadly, because they've stopped collection last May 31st.
There are a couple of categories to suit yourself but I'm participating on the 42KM marathon along with my beau. Other than that, there's the half-marathon category which requires you to run for 21KM or you can even go to the 10KM race or the 5KM fun run. As an experienced marathon participant, I do suggest first timers to go for the 10km or the half-marathon because the 5km one is going to be such a short one and I reckon the 21km one is just nice. :)
From a first-hand experience:
I used to participate in a 40km run in London with Hariss and I managed to reach the finishing line in nearly 4.5 hours thinking I was quick but guess how long he took? Less than 3 hours!
I think the essence to have fun in a marathon is to just follow your own pace and not to try to catch up with someone else. We usually start together but prior to starting and after our speed has warmed up, we split and go following to our own ability - fast or slow.
It's definitely going to be a fun run and most importantly, we're all running for a cause. I do hope I can reach out to at least some of you out there and to be able to persuade you to join as well.
Hope to see you there!
Warm wishes,
Freida.
Thursday, 2 June 2011
RIP.
If there is one thing that I loathe attending, it's funeral. It's quite a common sense that everyone doesn't like it but I recently found out someone can be happy for the passing of a person one hates! :(
I was at the funeral of my late uncle yesterday and the whole building was filled with so much sorrow. He was such a great man and a great leader so there was an abundance sense of loss lingering everywhere as he was so close with everyone - near or far. However saddened, I do hope he's in a better place now, free from any worries, pains and struggles.
And I've faith that he will always live on in our prayers. Immortal.
I was at the funeral of my late uncle yesterday and the whole building was filled with so much sorrow. He was such a great man and a great leader so there was an abundance sense of loss lingering everywhere as he was so close with everyone - near or far. However saddened, I do hope he's in a better place now, free from any worries, pains and struggles.
And I've faith that he will always live on in our prayers. Immortal.
Thursday, 19 May 2011
In my favourite city.
I've been very occupied with my studies that I didn't bother to write on this space anymore. :( But I have recently finished my modules and final year's exams so I've got plenty of time to spare. I wish I am more disciplined and can programme my brain to post consistently...
I'm in Amsterdam now with Hariss who's doing a round-check on his company over here. It's that moment... that moment when you constantly fall in love seeing how hard-working the love of your life is. :) Other than that, I've been roaming around the city by myself or bother him in his office and occasionally create silly conversations with his subordinates (whom by the way, are the most efficient people I've ever encountered) during brunch or hi-tea.
Yessss!! A person gets 3 LCDs for themselves! Well, most of them do, some don't. But according to them, for professionalism sake, they don't go around and act silly taking photographs. I've heard a lot about this rule in various companies but I just cannot rationalize the reason behind it just yet.
And when Hariss stepped up to his current post, he has allowed them to wear Polo Ts to work. I'd want to work under him anytime! ;)
To all of you (if there's anyone reading...) , take care!
Xx
I'm in Amsterdam now with Hariss who's doing a round-check on his company over here. It's that moment... that moment when you constantly fall in love seeing how hard-working the love of your life is. :) Other than that, I've been roaming around the city by myself or bother him in his office and occasionally create silly conversations with his subordinates (whom by the way, are the most efficient people I've ever encountered) during brunch or hi-tea.
Yessss!! A person gets 3 LCDs for themselves! Well, most of them do, some don't. But according to them, for professionalism sake, they don't go around and act silly taking photographs. I've heard a lot about this rule in various companies but I just cannot rationalize the reason behind it just yet.
And when Hariss stepped up to his current post, he has allowed them to wear Polo Ts to work. I'd want to work under him anytime! ;)
To all of you (if there's anyone reading...) , take care!
Xx
Thursday, 7 April 2011
Teeny Update.
I'm not very happy I spent less than 2 weeks in the States but for now, that would be it. I'm back in London today and have expected to have weird biological clock now but I'm excited for my flight back to KL tomorrow night!
In the last few days in States, I attended one of my relative's wedding which was one absolute beautiful one. They got married only after knowing each other for one year. I look up to their courage and how daring they are to have made such a decision. But I wish them loads of happiness and lucks in their marriage, nevertheless.
Much love,
Freida.
In the last few days in States, I attended one of my relative's wedding which was one absolute beautiful one. They got married only after knowing each other for one year. I look up to their courage and how daring they are to have made such a decision. But I wish them loads of happiness and lucks in their marriage, nevertheless.
My boy doesn't fancy attending wedding because he dislikes the antics of the people but I on the other hand looks forward to attending weddings. It's such a beautiful ceremony - where two different persons who have met from different walks of life tie a knot and have their love for each other secured. I love the idea of marriage! :)
Though it was short, I unbelievably spent time with most of my friends from all over and even bonded with my family members left over there. For now, sayonara, States. You shall be missed. :)
And for the rest, I hope life has brought upon you great happiness and are all in the pink.
Much love,
Freida.
Friday, 1 April 2011
Because America is beautiful!
Ever since I got back in New York, I've been spending a lot of quality time with my loves ones - both family and friends. Everyone tries their hardest to fit in me into their hectic schedule just so I won't miss out a lot. The beauty of friendship and love!
I went down to California the other day and managed to hang with my fellow Rosey mates and seniors. All of them are too successful now! A lot are soon inheriting their family's businesses and have laid out brilliant plans to make them big. So proud! As the odd one, I kept quiet while feeling so amazed at how business-minded my friends are. :)
Most of my friends pursued either Business, Economics or Finance but I don't think I can venture into that field just yet. My boy thinks I cannot do business - which is true. :p Hariss's company held a charity sale the other day. Instead of earning money from the items I put up for sale, I let go a lot for free because I couldn't resist meeting people who share the same passion as me. Sharing, is caring, isn't it? Hehe.
I also managed to squeeze in sometime to be spent with my cousin's family in Washington last weekend.
I went down to California the other day and managed to hang with my fellow Rosey mates and seniors. All of them are too successful now! A lot are soon inheriting their family's businesses and have laid out brilliant plans to make them big. So proud! As the odd one, I kept quiet while feeling so amazed at how business-minded my friends are. :)
Most of my friends pursued either Business, Economics or Finance but I don't think I can venture into that field just yet. My boy thinks I cannot do business - which is true. :p Hariss's company held a charity sale the other day. Instead of earning money from the items I put up for sale, I let go a lot for free because I couldn't resist meeting people who share the same passion as me. Sharing, is caring, isn't it? Hehe.
I also managed to squeeze in sometime to be spent with my cousin's family in Washington last weekend.
My cousin married a lovely Spanish guy who now decided to reside in Washington and they even adopted two cute kids. I love seeing how her family gets bigger and bigger and have them in my prayers always.
All is well, on my side and I hope everything's great on your side as well. America is so beautiful - I wish for everyone to be able to pay this continent a visit. Amen.
Loads of love,
Freida.
Thursday, 31 March 2011
My Religion.
Often, I get angry at myself for not being consistent in updating this blog. Reason being, I've another private blog which my friends have access to and I think I'm more obligated to update that blog instead of this. Oh well.
I've attended two religion talks in this past few months and what I can say is, there's so much more to explore. The more we learn, the more things get entangled - the more I dig in, the more I question. Growing up, I didn't get to spend a lot of time with my family to understand my beautiful religion. All were based on my own personal initiatives. Along the way, mistakes were made but I never regretted being the person I was. Everything is a learning process and I can never say I learnt enough.
I understand that from any religious Muslims' point of view, my past often gets judged and I've been receiving nasty comments on my Formspring lately , where it became a platform where radical religion ideas were conveyed. I accepted all critics but I'm also a being who cannot not be angry at how nasty strangers looked at my past.
Because I've been learning a lot lately, I also understand as fellow sister and brother in Islam, you cannot judge other people's sins and you cannot in any way try to straighten one's path in a rough, mean, rude manner. Everyone makes mistakes and what's important is to learn from it.
While I've learnt from mine, I also hope fellow mates have learnt that there are nicer ways to get things done. One can never be a perfect Muslim - one must always learn and along the way teach and share their knowledge with the rest.
Above everything, spread the love, all. Wherever you are, I hope you're blessed with your family, all healthy and safe.
Lots of love,
Freida.
I've attended two religion talks in this past few months and what I can say is, there's so much more to explore. The more we learn, the more things get entangled - the more I dig in, the more I question. Growing up, I didn't get to spend a lot of time with my family to understand my beautiful religion. All were based on my own personal initiatives. Along the way, mistakes were made but I never regretted being the person I was. Everything is a learning process and I can never say I learnt enough.
I understand that from any religious Muslims' point of view, my past often gets judged and I've been receiving nasty comments on my Formspring lately , where it became a platform where radical religion ideas were conveyed. I accepted all critics but I'm also a being who cannot not be angry at how nasty strangers looked at my past.
Because I've been learning a lot lately, I also understand as fellow sister and brother in Islam, you cannot judge other people's sins and you cannot in any way try to straighten one's path in a rough, mean, rude manner. Everyone makes mistakes and what's important is to learn from it.
While I've learnt from mine, I also hope fellow mates have learnt that there are nicer ways to get things done. One can never be a perfect Muslim - one must always learn and along the way teach and share their knowledge with the rest.
Above everything, spread the love, all. Wherever you are, I hope you're blessed with your family, all healthy and safe.
Lots of love,
Freida.
Monday, 28 February 2011
Khat.
I love classical gifts. Anything that can withstand the test of time. I was looking out for a proper gift for my paternal grandparents and later settled with this:
It's a very fine artsy thing I don't think I can do. The man's hands-on products were all so amazing and divine. It's a perfect art to be hung on your wall at home - keeps us serened to.
Since I know peanuts about the knowledge, the man helped me to choose a meaningful ayat which meant "blessing". Perfect gift to be given to elders, I think. People who have had everything in life and just need something that can bring upon them peace and warm wishes everyday.
Friday, 25 February 2011
I'm in Seoul!
I haven't been updating for weeks now. What did I miss??
Anyhow, I've been busy these past few weeks with exams and the flights back and forth London - KL. I'm now in Seoul for a week or so to spend quality time with my maternal side whom I haven't seen for quite sometime now.
If you guys ever set foot in Seoul, please go to Tteuran to have tea. It's in Insadong and is actually quite near to Gangnam. I totally forgot to bring my camera along this time but I'll share some pictures I found online.
The thing I love about going to proper restaurants for any dining purposes is for its food presentations, aside from the promising qualities in their food. Tteuran, for me, is a very relaxing place, nice for catching up session - the exact thing I did with my grandpa and fellow cousins the very day I landed in this mother land! :)
Other than that, I was truly blessed and contented to get a penthouse in Gangnam as a birthday present from my grandfather. Being 21 really brings you significant changes! Since I don't have much pictorial products right now, I'll try to share the amazing views from the property in near future.
Wishing everyone to be in your best states. Here's to the weekend!
Much love,
Freida.
Anyhow, I've been busy these past few weeks with exams and the flights back and forth London - KL. I'm now in Seoul for a week or so to spend quality time with my maternal side whom I haven't seen for quite sometime now.
If you guys ever set foot in Seoul, please go to Tteuran to have tea. It's in Insadong and is actually quite near to Gangnam. I totally forgot to bring my camera along this time but I'll share some pictures I found online.
The thing I love about going to proper restaurants for any dining purposes is for its food presentations, aside from the promising qualities in their food. Tteuran, for me, is a very relaxing place, nice for catching up session - the exact thing I did with my grandpa and fellow cousins the very day I landed in this mother land! :)
Other than that, I was truly blessed and contented to get a penthouse in Gangnam as a birthday present from my grandfather. Being 21 really brings you significant changes! Since I don't have much pictorial products right now, I'll try to share the amazing views from the property in near future.
Wishing everyone to be in your best states. Here's to the weekend!
Much love,
Freida.
Monday, 7 February 2011
The Black Lining.
I did not grow up in Malaysia and not proud to say that I know very little about what really happens behind the rich-in-cultures society. Recently, I found out that a lot of people practice black magic after I asked around since I saw quite a lot of scenes about it through a Malay drama.
Absurd, isn't it?
It's scary to know what strangers can do to you by just merely pictures of yourself. In worse cases, they don't even need pictures, just full name! I've actually heard about this matter before this but was drawn to not believe it - for some reasons.
Does anyone of you have personal thoughts (or experience) about this?
Absurd, isn't it?
It's scary to know what strangers can do to you by just merely pictures of yourself. In worse cases, they don't even need pictures, just full name! I've actually heard about this matter before this but was drawn to not believe it - for some reasons.
Does anyone of you have personal thoughts (or experience) about this?
Monday, 31 January 2011
Niece turned one!
Event : Niece's 1st birthday bash.
Venue : Grand Hyatt, Seoul.
It's one of the cultures that the babies will be freed and several toys will be put in front of them. In my family, they usually put a calculator, book and a toy ship. The calculator symbolizes that they'll soon help out on the family's business domestically, book symbolizes that they'll become lawyers (and involved in the business as well) and a toy ship symbolizes that they'll get involved in the trading part which basically means they'll expand everything and make them into greater successes.
My niece chose the calculator and everyone was over the moon! Ha-ha.
We do this every year up till 3 years-old. According to my parents, I chose the book when I was one, calculator when I was 2 and the calculator again when I was 3. So they've been quite positive that no matter what fields I study, I'll eventually help out in the business. :p
Which... I'm not certain yet since I don't know what I really really want to do after I graduate. :)
I loooove being exposed with different cultures and thank God for being able to be a part of this family which is rich in culture diversities.
What's your culture like?
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because I love him.
I thought to myself recently on how thankful I am for the people and things that I have around me. True that I cannot stop talking about my beau but I earnestly hope it doesn't sound too disturbing to anyone of you because he's truly one of the greatest men I've ever known.
Today, I was in uni to present my final year project & research and I was so happy he actually sent me over and waited outside until I was done. I even got teased by my professor for having the sweetest guy ever in front of everyone else. Not that I was shy about it but it felt great when everyone else agreed to my professor's statement. It was so true and I felt as if I had made one of the best decisions ever in my life.
Everyone deserves to get a partner who loves them like no other; One who would put aside the world to be with you when you needed him/her the most.
I've found the love of my life. A love story too perfect to tell. Truly blessed. And here I am, wishing for everyone else to be able to find their other halves as well just so happiness can be doubled, or even tripled.
X
Today, I was in uni to present my final year project & research and I was so happy he actually sent me over and waited outside until I was done. I even got teased by my professor for having the sweetest guy ever in front of everyone else. Not that I was shy about it but it felt great when everyone else agreed to my professor's statement. It was so true and I felt as if I had made one of the best decisions ever in my life.
Everyone deserves to get a partner who loves them like no other; One who would put aside the world to be with you when you needed him/her the most.
I've found the love of my life. A love story too perfect to tell. Truly blessed. And here I am, wishing for everyone else to be able to find their other halves as well just so happiness can be doubled, or even tripled.
X
Tuesday, 4 January 2011
The Other Side of the Fence?
Why do we always have the perception that the grass seem greener on the other side? Why do we always think other people are having more than we do? Why are we constantly trying to have something we never had?
Why can't we be thankful for what we have?
I see a lot of people who think their lives are lacking in so many aspects - love, partners, friends, financial-wise, parents... basically anything they can think of. They want to fix everything that they've and wish they can replace them with things that other people are having.
Why don't we take 2 seconds out of the ungratefulness we feel in a minute to think we all are living in perfection. Even if we know we aren't, at least think that our lives are near there; great friends, wise parents, lovable siblings - little things that can sum up to huge happiness.
When you actually get to the greener side, you might just want to come back for those little things you never knew meant so much. Please love your life the way it is. In our quest to make it better, don't forget that after all, we've been given what we ought to have.
HE knows better.
Monday, 3 January 2011
Love Catch.
In life, you'll be thoroughly happy to have a man who always have your back.
Makes you appreciate the littlest things even more. :)
"I don't know about the next 10 years but I know I'll still love you tomorrow and the weeks to come...," - B.
Makes you appreciate the littlest things even more. :)
"I don't know about the next 10 years but I know I'll still love you tomorrow and the weeks to come...," - B.
the journey I've experienced.
It's amazing... how 2010 had taught me and grew me up into a different person than my old self. In 2010, I learnt to appreciate people more and value the things I have deeper. Also, I pushed aside the barrier I've always put with strangers, made a number of friends through various social networks and love the way they are.
Truly grateful.
I've also understood the fact that even if people don't know you personally, they can grow hatred upon you and we just have to accept it - Not everyone would love it if we're being real, no matter how saddening that may sound.
Other than that, one thing that made me happy in 2010 is to be in a relationship with my boy, my man, my best friend, my everything. We're among those clingy couples but I'm so happy he knows when to give me space, when to grow the distance, when to understand and actually have lead me to the right path. I'm slowly there.
I wish to be a better Muslim in 2011 and have a generous heart who reaches out to the less fortunates.
Here's to a new beginning. May we all live without sorrows, tonnes of love and minimal dissatisfactions.
Spread the love! Xx
Truly grateful.
I've also understood the fact that even if people don't know you personally, they can grow hatred upon you and we just have to accept it - Not everyone would love it if we're being real, no matter how saddening that may sound.
Other than that, one thing that made me happy in 2010 is to be in a relationship with my boy, my man, my best friend, my everything. We're among those clingy couples but I'm so happy he knows when to give me space, when to grow the distance, when to understand and actually have lead me to the right path. I'm slowly there.
I wish to be a better Muslim in 2011 and have a generous heart who reaches out to the less fortunates.
Here's to a new beginning. May we all live without sorrows, tonnes of love and minimal dissatisfactions.
Spread the love! Xx
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